Alissa Graunke

RELATIONAL LANDSCAPE GUIDE + COACH

(and FOREVER WANDERER)


Hello, lovebird! I’m so glad to see you here. I have personally felt so much pain, confusion, anger, and loneliness having to pick up the pieces of my heart again and again trying to find that long-lasting love. I’ve dated guys who couldn’t commit, guys who used me to cheat or to “get back” at an ex (I found that out more than once), guys who cheated on me, guys who ghosted, guys who lied to me, and narcissistically-tended guys who emotionally abused me. I couldn’t seem to find anyone who could just love and accept me exactly how I am, or even the versions I shape-shifted into to try to be the woman they wanted me to be.

One day, I was just d o n e with feeling so crummy about myself, hopeless, and lonely. I had an inkling that I was going to have to drastically change how I viewed love and relationships because I was painfully aware I was the common denominator in all these dating & relationship experiences. I didn’t know what I didn’t know, so I hired my first coach. That process changed my life forever, and I am honored to share what I’ve learned from the trenches I’ve been through. I feel called to share what I have learned because too many of my beautiful sisters are struggling with similar stories of wanting to give so much love, and being repeatedly disappointed, confused, and frustrated in the dating & relationship realm.

I’m passionate about helping other women find and develop more love in their lives through reconnection to their innate authenticity, and an uncompromising commitment to self-growth, and I’m honored you’re here and considering me as a potential guide. This space can be so tender, raw, and yet, being in relationship is the most foundational experience of being human. I am still walking and ever-learning on this path, too, and believe we are all on our own timelines of awareness and experiencing. Breaking through the messaging of generations of patriarchal conditioning around relationship is a potent and REVOLUTIONARY act and gift to yourself. This is sacred work — necessary if we want to keep moving our collective consciousness towards greater awakening and less separation from ourselves, from others, and our planetary home.


Since 2016, I have been working with women who are highly motivated, conscious/self-aware, and deeply empathetic who have all found greater satisfaction in the dating process, commitments to long-term relationships, and/or marriage.

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I am a certified coach through SHFT, an industry-recognized program that carries the stamp of approval by the rigorous ICF (International Coaching Federation). My training combines several evidence-based techniques, grounded in adaptive therapeutic change technique, goal setting theory, the science of positive psychology, and much more. I am theoretically, relationally and ethically qualified walk this part of your path with you.

“Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”

— Lucille Ball